For many of us, negotiation is a lost art.
When we see an item's price in a store we expect to pay that price if we want it.
But this hasn't always been the case. Throughout most of the human history negotiation was a necessary skill, a basic part of life. You had to negotiate for food, transportation, etc.
However, negotiation remains as important as ever if you want to succeed in the business world and in your daily life.
The art of negotiation is critical for your career. Whether lobbying for an increase in salary or trying to nail down that big contract, you must know how to negotiate. Yet a surprising number of people fail to even try. According to one study, 58% of millennials have never negotiated their salary.
This combination of fear and trepidation is holding you back, but anyone can become a master negotiator. However, it requires you to find the right negotiation style for you.
You must lean into your strengths while mitigating your weaknesses. And this is why there’s no single “best” negotiating strategy.
To get you started on your negotiation journey we have put together a list of 16 negotiating strategies that you need to know.
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In business negotiations and private deals, few areas are set in stone. When both negotiators are fully dedicated to finding common ground, they can use the Both-Win® strategy to find a mutually beneficial arrangement.
For example, let's say you are a service provider and you can't get a higher price for your services, perhaps you can convince your counterpart to change the scope of work; or make specification, division of labor, or quality control tradeoffs.
Similarly if you are a buyer and you can't convince the seller to offer you a better cost maybe you can obtain better payment terms or more services for the same price.
Either way, tradeoffs are what you should aim for. But first…
Find out how both parties can win by asking open questions. By simply asking What-If and Would-You-Consider questions, you can better understand the position of the other party. From there you can build stronger agreements. For example:
One last piece of advice: Don't rush to ask both questions at once. Allow your counterpart to answer the first question in earnest; it's possible they can offer you a better deal than you had in mind. Leave the closing questions for later if they haven’t given you a satisfactory tradeoff.
If you're on the receiving end of these questions, the following negotiating tactics offer you a way out. Respond with another question to see where your counterpart is heading:
Regardless of how you choose to defend your interest, know that you should never answer a What-If immediately. Take time to think and make sure your What-If answer doesn’t lead down a rabbit hole.
Say your asking price for a piece of real-estate property is $500,000. You're in a bit of a rush to close the deal with a client and know that you could go as low as $450,000. That would allow you to obtain a profit even though you’d ruin your margin.
Your client comes back and offers $460,000. It's a bit more than the absolute low and it lets you go on with your life, so you quickly say yes, right? Wrong! Your client may feel suspicious if you’re willing to shed almost 10% of the value so quickly. Is there something wrong with the property? And how much was your initial margin, exactly?
So you should ask for time to think about it. Perhaps you can go back and ask for $470,000. Then you could agree for $465,000 in another day or so. The delay is small enough and earns you an extra buck for your time.
You bow to your pressures. Whether you're a purchasing manager on a tight budget, or you have to report to your boss for new acquisitions, or you’re looking to buy a bigger home for your family, you have certain pressures to keep in mind—and you know it.
Now put yourself into the other party's shoes. What are their pressures? What do they need? Understanding the central pressures of your counterpart is vital. In this way, you’ll forge a better deal for yourself.
An experiment showed that when people were told to expect $7.50 from a negotiation, they got around $7.50. In the same conditions, people expecting to get $2.50 got around $2.50.
This shows that expectation and achievement are closely related. So, what do you expect to get from your next negotiation? Low expectations can lead you to undercut yourself before you even start the negotiation process.
The Bogey is, in essence, telling your counterpart, “That's all I got!”.
Say you're looking to renovate your home and have a budget of $10,000, but the local seller sends you an offer for $15,000. Perhaps you could find a little extra money, but you’re not really willing to spend more.
So let your service provider know that $10,000 is all you can afford. They will either take your offer, or let you know what is doable for your money.
In the meantime you'll learn a lot about furniture, wall treatments, and light fixtures, which will help you make an informed decision. The larger the expenditure, the more necessary the Bogey becomes.
There are many reasons for deadlock. Usually it is because the parties haven't found a mutually beneficial zone of agreement over which they Both-Win®. There are many ways to break an impasse—such as:
Deadlines are powerful because they force action. Buying gifts for Christmas, catching the train, and arriving at work are but a few examples illustrating how people behave when confronted with time pressure.
Deadlines force people to choose either one or the other. A deadline's implicit threat is that lack of action has unpredictable consequences. Yet you can never be certain that a negotiation deadline is real, so be wary of them.
At the same time, know that deadlines are as real as the beholder believes them to be. So test other people's deadlines—but set your own.
Psychiatrists liken deadlock to alienation; both have a traumatic effect on people. Rather than sacrificing their feeling of belonging, people prefer to distort the truth.
Given how negotiators fear deadlock, they will go to great lengths to avoid it. Therefore you may not feel at ease using it as a negotiation tactic. It's powerful, it’s uncomfortable. So use it sparingly.
When you hear an ultimatum in negotiations, you can never know if that really is the last and final offer. It's important to understand what the final offer is for.
So don't jump to conclusions and always consider content, consequences, firmness, and time. Additionally, having a strong BATNA will help you keep a level head when given an ultimatum.
There are some places where take it or leave it is not an alternative, like labor negotiations.
Take it or leave it should be avoided any time this negotiation strategy can poison the well. Because if you're not willing to walk away from the table for good, or you simply can’t, take it or leave it won’t work.
Yet the tactic does work in several cases, two examples being:
The iceberg represents the needs, wants, and motivators of your negotiation counterpart. Although you can readily see some of these needs, most of them loom unspoken under the surface.
If you're unaware of these hidden needs and fail to offer satisfactory boons to cover them, it will be much harder to reach an acceptable compromise.
Sometimes these needs have a structure to them, like in Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
Other times they will come at random, and it's up to the negotiator to discern which are the most important.
However, there are some constants:
And the list is much longer. As Shakespeare suggests in The Merchant of Venice, “He is well paid who is well satisfied.”
Unless you're negotiating for your own purchases, you'll need a negotiation team. Each person in this team brings their unique skills and expertise to the table. Ideally, these skills should complement each other.
Individuals tend to dwell on their own side's limitations, whereas groups reinforce each other's strength by challenging their team assumptions and constraints. At the same time, if these people are from different company departments, with enough negotiation training, they will have direct input in the outcome of the deal.
Say you're looking to sell a home and the buyer wants the chandelier and rugs thrown in. You finally agree and concede to leave these for a very low price just to get on with the transaction.
The next morning when you meet the buyer, they also want a very low rate on a small mortgage and a slow-paced return plan. But these requests never came up before!
Of course, this can be an unethical negotiation strategy, or it can be a genuine lack of understanding from the buyer. Either way you can placate this with your own escalation.
You are surely taking a risk if you say that the buyer's proposed mortgage terms are unacceptable. But you also send a very strong message that the buyer can't push their way through the deal.
Partnerships, like marriages, must have a structure regulating the long-term evolution of the relationship. More importantly, though, you will need a divorce procedure if and when you want to break up with your partner company.
Trading deals and simple purchases are hassle free and straightforward when compared to a partnership. “In traditional buying,” says Karrass, “I buy so much of this item, for this amount of money, and here’s how and when I want it. I don’t give a damn about how you run your business.” On the other hand, partnerships raise a great many additional problems. For example:
As always, answers aren't easy—but they can be negotiated.
These are a few negotiating traits that have the highest probability of making a lasting impact on a contract’s bottom line:
Traveling exposes us to many different cultural circumstances. In some countries you're expected to negotiate hotel room prices. In other places you’ll find sprawling bazaars, where half the fun is negotiating everything; in Turkey it’s almost impolite not to haggle.
From marketplaces to towering New York offices, the ability to negotiate will always be the most useful asset you have.
Learning the art of negotiation takes time and practice. The only way to improve is to practice with an expert who can support and guide you every step of the way within a controlled environment.
While you could uncover the same advice online, there's no more efficient and practical way to acquire negotiation skills than by signing up for an in-person class. This is why more than one million businesspeople have attended KARRASS seminars across the globe.
Take the next step to becoming a master negotiator by signing up for the KARRASS Effective Negotiating program in your area today.